Why Do I Feel Lonely When I Have Friends?
Have you ever been surrounded by people and still felt completely, inexplicably lonely? That hollow, flat feeling has a name: relational hunger. And it's more common than you think.
In this episode, Sandy explores the difference between being heard and being truly known, why so many of us are starving for real connection even when our calendars are full, and what's quietly getting in the way.
You'll learn about the three Enneagram instincts (self-preservation, social, and sexual/one-to-one) and how each one shapes what you hunger for in relationships, as well as where your blind spots might be hiding. Sandy also shares why knowing your dominant instinct can help you stop showing up to the wrong table and wondering why you're still hungry.
Plus: five practical, doable things you can try this week to start feeding that relational hunger - especially if you're in your 30s, 40s, or 50s and the structures that used to create connection have mostly fallen away.
In this episode:
- Why loneliness is not new, and what HAS changed
- What "relational hunger" is and how it disguises itself
- The three Enneagram instincts and how each one experiences loneliness differently
- A special look at Type 5 and why connection can be a real blind spot
- Five practical ways to build connection as an adult
This one is for anyone who has ever driven home from a great party feeling more alone than when they arrived. Share with someone who also might be feeling that "hunger"!
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West Health-Gallup survey on mental health:
https://news.gallup.com/poll/700079/mental-health-ratings-continue-worsen.aspx
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